Memoir Tenderly Chronicles a Loved One’s Struggle with Addiction

There’s a touching quote from Norman Maclean in his book, “A River Runs Through It,” that resonates deeply:

“We can seldom help those closest to us. Either we don’t know what part of ourselves to give or the part we have to give is not wanted. And so, it is those that we live with and should know who elude us. But we can still love them — we can love completely without complete understanding.”

This sentiment is powerfully brought to life by J. Benjamin Bertram in his compelling book, “Reaching for the Sun,” as he tries to save his younger brother Ethan from addiction and mental health struggles.

Ethan’s situation echoes a widespread issue. Statistics show that over 50 million Americans face some form of mental health condition, 27 million grapple with drug abuse, and 8 million struggle with alcohol addiction.

Some cases receive widespread attention, but many others slip under the radar, each representing arduous journeys for the individuals and their families.

Bertram’s narrative provides a poignant glimpse into what happens when a family member battles inner demons. Ethan is portrayed as a kind-hearted individual, finding joy in activities like fly fishing with his brother, a reference that ties back to “A River Runs Through It.”

Despite being a loving and joyful person, Ethan’s life is marked by a struggle to maintain normalcy. He is a skilled carpenter and landscaper but frequently drifts from one job to another, moving through various living situations and rehab facilities, at times ending up homeless.

Throughout all this, Bertram stands by his brother, offering support in the best way he knows, but always falling short of complete understanding.

“Ethan was always loved, but he lacked love for himself.”

Maybe that’s the heart of the issue.

Source: Norman Maclean, J. Benjamin Bertram