Why ‘Opposites Attract’ Could Be Troubling for OutDaughtered’s Adam & Danielle

In the June 11 episode of “Outdaughtered,” Adam and Danielle Busby addressed their contrasting love languages. Danielle values acts of service, stating, “For someone to take the load off of me is a huge weight of love” (via People). On the other hand, Adam cherishes words of affirmation and physical touch. “Literally, his top two are my bottom two,” Danielle commented. Still, she emphasized that communication is crucial in bridging this gap. “I love Adam and his family, and they are more lovey-dovey, and that’s strange to me, but you know, we can be aware of it and put the other before ourselves,” she said. “Hopefully it’ll make these acts of loving easier.”

Finding a compromise is important for couples, but it doesn’t always work. While introverts may find themselves enthralled by someone outgoing and always ready for a party, and extroverts might relish the novelty of a partner who enjoys cozy evenings at home, such disparate pairings usually don’t last when it comes to significant matters, said behavior and relationship expert Patrick Wanis, Ph.D.

“A person can be intrigued by the differences in someone else, but if those differences are opposing core values, then the relationship is doomed,” Wanis explained. “The more opposite that the core values are, the less chance there is that two people will actually be attracted to each other.” Wanis provided examples such as political beliefs, religious beliefs, and parenting styles, noting that people often emulate their parents’ style or attempt to “fix” what they thought their parents did wrong.

“Our parenting style is often determined by our upbringing,” he said.

Source: People